Twice Divorced – By Grayce Goin
Dear Twice Divorced,
I have a friend who is in love with a certain gentleman. They broke up some time ago and she is regretting it with all her heart. I get the feeling that it was she who initiated the break up.
I often wonder if I should call him and let him know how much she still cares and if it would make any difference to him. She seems so sad, and if there were any possibility that it would help I would really like to see her happy again.
Question is, should I do this or just mind my own beeswax?
Concerned Friend
Dear Concerned,
My instant reaction to this is to follow the 11th commandment: MYOB!
While I applaud your willingness to lend your friend a shoulder and an ear, unless she requests otherwise, keep your tongue out of the equation. She is quite capable of deciding on the appropriateness of initiating contact with this man. You mention that this breakup was some time ago – odds are he has long since moved on and could be seriously embarrassed by any approach, let alone one by a third party.
Please, do continue to be supportive of your friend, get her out and doing new things and, hopefully, meeting new people.
I’m sure she has either considered the wisdom of contacting this man and thought better of it, or contacted him and been rebuffed. My advice is to let her handle the situation and do nothing until and unless she specifically requests it.
Be Well
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In answer to Mary,
Hi.
You asked about the drawing and the caption. I do the drawings and the captions. Sometimes when I read a letter I get an image in my head almost immediately, such was the case with this letter.
I had a picture of two friends (in this case the letter writer and Grayce) going off to seek “wise council.” It being around the holidays I was watching “White Christmas” and started equating Rosemary Clooney and Bing Crosby to the letter writer. A stretch I admit, but that is how the two friends in the drawing come to ask the question of a “Knight in Shining Armour.” Grayce’s reply becomes what he said.
The thinking of this cartoonist is never logical. My apologies for any confusion. – Leni
By all means, call for coffee?? How truly simplistic life would be if we all did things without forethought and a mind to the consequences of our actions. He will get the hint?? Life marches on and men, sad to admit, are much better at picking up and moving on than women. Reaching out at such a late stage will invariably mean more hurt for the friend. Fairy tales are nice and sweet happily ever afters, but they are just that … fairy tales. Which brings me to my next question. How exactly does the caption of “And The Knight in Shining Armour Said …” pertain to this letter?
By all means tell her to call and invite him for coffee. If he is still interested he will get the hint. If he politely says no, then she will have to drop it.