The Catskill Chronicle

Twice Divorced – By Grayce Goin

Dear Twice Divorced,

“It’s now been several months since I told my sister all about her fiancé’s hitting on me at a party. 

She didn’t react as I thought she would, but instead turned on me. She told our mother and anyone else who would listen for that matter, that it was I who went after him at that party and that he had turned me down. 

The last thing she said to me was that, ‘I couldn’t stand for her to be happy’ and ‘I had always wanted everything she had, and now I had lost everything, including her.’ 

She has not spoken to me since. I am not invited to family functions.

When I am in the area on business, and wish to see our parents, I have to call first and make sure she isn’t there. 

The wedding date has been set and, not surprisingly, I am not invited.

I don’t know what else to do. It seems I’ve lost my sister forever and this low-life she will be marrying will eventually tear her heart to pieces. I know he hasn’t changed, but I’m the only one who sees him for what he is. I want to be there for my sister, regardless of the mistake she is most assuredly making. Do I dare show up at the wedding uninvited?”

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That is the letter I was planning on sending you until my phone rang at 5:00 a.m.several days ago. My sister, sobbing hysterically, told me the scum bucket had been out all night and partying with an old girlfriend while she had been calling hospitals and the police to see if there had been any accidents reported. He was totally stoned and told her to “get used to it – he wasn’t giving up the good life just for her.” And he said, “your stupid sister will never know what she missed when she told me to ‘flake off.’”

He is living in his car – again – and my sister and I are well on the road to recovering our relationship. Thank you. Even after being shunned by my sister, I knew that following your advice had been the right thing to do.

Vindicated

Dear Vindicated,

Thank you for letting us know how this situation worked out.  Maybe it will help someone else in similar circumstances see that keeping loved ones in the dark is rarely the right thing to do.

Be Well

Letters can be sent to deartwice@yahoo.com or Catskill.Chronicle@yahoo.com. Be sure to put Twice Divorced in the subject line.

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